Relationships- the One Common Platform

Relationships are a Mirror to the Self- to all the matters of the Self viz. Health, Emotional Well being, Money, Sexuality and everything else; as I wrote in my previous article - The True Purpose of Relationships.

The "Your money, my money" arguments, the "You don't give me enough space" arguments are all Opportunities to knowing, that which you believe. If you are reading this blog you might well be trying to apply the Law of Attraction consciously in one or the other sphere of your Life. And relationships bring all of those spheres to ONE COMMON PLATFORM.

The journey with your partner is not just about you exploring him/her but its also about your Self Exploration; exploring the dimensions of your Life.

By the time we are in our 20s 0r 30s, we have already gone through a lot of Conditioning. By this Past Conditioning I mean the Belief System that has formed around our Life- either by our own experiences or by the Society.
For example, lets talk about how Relationships get affected by different individual beliefs of the partners in matters of lifestyle and money.

Julie and Matt are dating. Matt spends extravagantly on gifts that he buys often for Julie, he often plans how he could impress Julie by one thing or the other. That is his way of Showing his Love for her. He believes, it adds a spark in the eyes of her beloved.

But Julie, on the other hand, has a lesser importance for material gifts or things of a similar kind. She wants Matt to be by her side, give her time, Say it more often- that how special she is for him; that he loves her. She wants to see him around and though she is happy to see the material gifts, she gives them a secondary importance.

Julie says the three words more often, " I Love You..You are most dear to me." But that had never been Matt's way. 

And one day it comes out.

 Matt says, " I feel bad. You don't really do anything for me. I feel like I just Give and Never Receive."
Julie retorts back, "You never say you Love me..I don't feel special. You don't give me your time. I need your Love, not those Gifts. Do I never occupy your mind during the course of the Day? I feel alone. "

And that's the beginning of the argument. And the truth is that no one is to blame for. Julie has been brought in a family that wasn't financially abundant, but there was plenty of Love between the family members. The whole idea of showing love was Spending time together, care and concern.

Matt, on the other hand, was brought up in a financially well family , but with negligence on the part of the parents. They would not turn up to him in everyday life, to spend time together or so; but they would keep showing their love for their child by giving him assets and everything else he would ever be in need of. The whole idea of showing love was different.

And when these two differently conditioned people met-there was a clash in time.

So you see, there are just two different belief systems, two different ideas; nothing is right or wrong.
In a Spiritual Relationship, the partners seek to rise above these ideas. Transcend them. Become aware of the individual and the other's conditioning. That is also a big step towards Forgiveness.

This is what a relationship has to offer- it makes you become aware of your conditioning; your beliefs- if you are willing to pay attention. When you become aware of the individual Conditioning that you and your partner have, it begins to dissolve. 

If Julie and Matt become aware of it, their resentment will begin to dissolve and Love will emerge. And this Love that emerges from Understanding -is Unconditional, is pure and Divine.

:)